by Patti Normile. Though the steps through grief are similar for most people, the way each member of a family moves through the process is as unique as each person is. One member may be depressed, while another is depressed, while another might feel a calm resolution. And sometimes these differences produce antagonism between and among family members. This expertly written booklet helps family members work their way through these difficulties by seeking understanding and avoiding the urge to judge others’ reactions.