by C. Jan Borgman, M.S.W., LISW-S. Few words can spark the fear, panic, and confusion that “cancer”? does. When a family member or friend receives that diagnosis, it changes not only their world, but that of everyone around them. With a family member’s diagnosis, a teen may suddenly find themselves with new responsibilities at home; a friend’s announcement of his or her illness might lead to a shift in the relationship. This CareNote answers many of the questions that can arise and reminds teens that you and the person who has cancer are not defined by the cancer but by who you are and how you deal with it.